Does he treat you like a queen?

So, I'm kind of starting to see someone.  Ok so it started a long time ago but that just isn't really relevant is it?  I was talking about it with an old friend recently and saying how it's funny because I think I'm always ultimately surprised when things start to work.  Not that I think things shouldn't work out but because the image I've always had in my head for the label "boyfriend" or anything related to that has always been this cookie cutter of a ridiculously normal guy.  Maybe I should just get over the fact that I'm not normal and would hate actually dating Mr. Normal.  I know it's ridiculous but I like to get his attention make eye contact and say wow you're f**ing ugly!  and I love that he so smoothly responds you should try waking up next to you sometime.  It's so endearing to me.  I know for some this would be dysfunctional, but it's just not for me.  We just grin at each other and share the moment of calling each other ugly, how romantic!!

So this friend was playing classic good friend and asked well all that really matters is does he treat you like a queen?  And I freaked out for a minute.  I was like no way, not at all.  And I sat and pondered for a minute wow maybe I'm being dumb and getting into something that's ultimately doomed to failure because I'm overlooking things.  He treats me really well, I could never pretend to deny that but a queen??  I don't feel "spoiled" by him.  I don't think he "worships" me.  But I would never want a guy who treated me like that.  I was so thrown off but the friend stepped in and said no, you're more the kind of girl who wants to deserve what you get.  Exactly.  I have confidence in my relationships because I try to give more than I take from the relationship. 

Which brings on the next thought... Why do we use such cliche benchmarks like "does he treat you like a queen?"  Why are we socially teaching girls that such is the kind of relationship to be desired?  some real food for thought...